One of the worse things in the world is being alone or being with the wrong person in a relationship. Man wasn’t intended to be alone. As I promised you a few days ago, the rest of the story goes like this:
Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
The goal to any relationship is to get married and have children.
As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”(Ephesians 5:31 NLT.)
“You are your own worst enemy. If you can learn to stop expecting impossible perfection, in yourself and others, you may find the happiness that has always eluded you.”
― Lisa Kleypas, Love in the Afternoon
If you are alone, here are a few suggestions that might help you “get lucky.”
1. There is no perfect man or woman out there. When you find a person that you are attracted to and want to get to know them. It’s your choice to become friends first rather than sex partners. Each have its own ramifications but remember, after the sex is gone a friendship will last forever.
2. Every person deserves a fresh start. Many relationships fail because a lot of people judge the new person based on what happened to them with the old one(s). Instead of looking for the faults (which everyone has) in the new person, accentuate the positive and determine to work on those skeletons that can keep you from forming any kind of relationship (even with yourself).
3. How do you know when you have found someone? If you can talk with that person, you’ve won half the battle and is worth the chance for a date or two. In any relationship, communication between each other is one of the keys. “A beautiful thing happens when we start paying attention to each other. It is by participating more in your relationship that you breathe life into it.”
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience.
4. Be approachable. When someone makes an attempt to speak to you, remember it took a lot of nerve for some to go out of their comfort zones to make that attempt. Look beyond their image because you’ll never know if inside that person is everything that you have been hoping and praying for. Besides all it takes is some new clothes and time spent with you and soon they would be able to represent you.
5. Don’t be deceived. If it doesn’t work, it won’t unless both of you will work it. If you try to work out some issues by yourself without the other person’s contributions, it won’t work. That’s like being in love alone. It takes two. Know when to get out of something that will never work. You’ll know if all you are getting is NO signals. Our misconception is that things will get better. It won’t.
Have fun enjoying each other’s company. Although a relationship is working together for a common purpose, it’s supposed to be fun. You are supposed to enjoy your partner.
When it ain’t fun, men stay away from the home and women start looking elsewhere to be appreciated. It defeats the purpose of being together in the first place.