A lot of men look at women as “Eye Candy” or sometimes they say that they are “Window Shopping.” When you see something in the window, eventually you will go inside and purchase said item if you look at it long enough unless it’s not what you wanted then you look elsewhere for something more pleasing to your eyes.
Need I remind you that “Your eye is a lamp that provides light for your body. When your eye is good, your whole body is filled with light. But when your eye is bad, your whole body is filled with darkness. And if the light you think you have is actually darkness, how deep that darkness is!” (Matthew 6:23-24 NLT)
What you allow to come through the “eye” gate will create a desire within you which usually turns into lust. If you took an inventory of where you’ve missed the mark in your life, you’ll find that sin only can enter your life through these three areas: the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, or the pride of life. The lust of the flesh includes things like overeating. We all should know about pride. For this blog, we want to talk what enters your heart through your eyes.
1 John 2:15-16 from the King James reads like this: Love not the world, neither the things [that are] in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. “For all that [is] in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.” When the Bible mentions “the world” it’s referring to all the influences of the devil for he is the god of this world. (See 2 Corinthians 4:4)
But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Math 5:28 NLT)
Lust can never be satisfied. It’s not happy with doing something just once. It must be constantly fed because it (the lust) feels like it missed something or it wants to pursue a heightened experience greater than the previous one because the last one didn’t last. What’s wrong with “eye candy” or “just looking” as in window shopping is that the desire to see must be constantly updated. When you find yourself looking past your spouse or significant other, you are already at the customer service counter trying to DX (direct exchange) your relationship. That relationship was based upon lust not love.
Over the years, I’ve realized that the prince charming (for the women) and the damsel in distress men look to rescue are given to us in every relationship that we get involved with. When God sends a person in your life, they are like a treasure. They have all the things you ever wanted in a person, hidden deep inside them.
On the surface, we see only a person with issues created by the skeletons hidden in their closet. Because one or more of the skeletons come out (sometimes too soon) it scares us into not wanting to go any further thus never finding that real treasure within a person. So we go on and on through life looking to rescue or to be rescued when all along that person was already in your presence. Skeletons are the remains of issues that were uncovered in a relationship that was never resolved. It’s best when an issue arises, to handle it to its completion at the time it arises or the next time you see it, it would have grown bigger. But if you determined in your heart to work diligently to dig up that treasure, over the years, not only will you two become as one, you will also find that real treasure you sought your whole life for buried within your significant other. ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'(Matthew 19:5 ESV).
I feel bad for women who feel they have to dress revealing just to get attention. Every father only wants his daughter to wrap themselves up so that when he has to give his gift away, her hand in marriage, it is hasn’t been tampered with. But if the package has holes in it, men will steal the candy and the gift becomes all used up and of no use to anyone. Therefore as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience (Colossians 3:12 NIV) that people can see the real treasure within you.